Put your VOICE in the room
We’ve all been at the meetings when the participants take their stereotypical roles: the constant text-messager or gadget-meister; the one who invariably takes the topic off-course; the one who always tries to steer the meeting back on course; the long-winded one who states an opinion every time someone else takes a breath (!!) and… the woman or […]
Coaching Your Executive Team (Silos – Part 2)
In my previous post about breaking down silos I wrote of the importance of seeing the executive team you are a part of as the priority team (Team #1) over the team you are actually leading. This comes from Patrick Lencioni’s book, The Advantage . Expect expressions of sense of loss and concern as you ask your team to make […]
Breaking Down Silos – Team # 1
While still a consultant, for 15 years I was simultaneously part of a pastoral team at a New York City-based Church. In my capacity I managed a few ministry departments over the years. I’ve always enjoyed leading my ministry teams but – depending on the year and how things were going – I often found […]
But you are not a Jedi YET…
When you’ve changed and grown but your boss still sees you as an apprentice. In Star Wars lore, a Padawan is the apprentice of a Jedi Master (a master fighter, strategist, spiritual guru and MASTER of “The Force”). The Padawan apprentices under the Jedi master for a number of years, learns not only how to […]
Imposter Syndrome – Are You Afraid You’re a Fraud?
Let me begin this chapter by saying that if you are a fraud, a high school dropout masquerading as a doctor or the CEO of a company that stole someone else’s patented idea, stop reading now. You really are a fraud and need to quit. As for most of you honest, super competent readers who […]
Failure Coaching for Leaders
This post is adapted from my upcoming book: Pitfalls of Fear Driven Leaders and how to OvercomeThe “It’s OK to Fail” club has more and more members. Its adherents are industry leaders, sports figures, executive and life coaches, therapists and people with success stories because, truth be told, they almost all had to fail before […]
How Extraordinary Leaders Communicate: 7 Principles of Fierce Conversations
The best thing a courageous leader can do is to learn to have genuine, “fierce” conversations that change things.
Why everyone labels you “aggressive”
I enjoy the coaching that accompanies my role as a training facilitator for mid to large-sized organizations. As an outsider I can see behaviors and dysfunctions objectively. As a sensor/perceiver, I notice things like eye twitches and subtle flashes of annoyance as they cross participants’ faces. And because I genuinely enjoy people, even the most […]
Dear Toxic Boss: I’m talking to YOU
All of us have seen them. Some of us have worked for them. Some of us have been them. You know ” them” : the screamer; the humiliator; the total dominator; the letch (male or female); the misogynist; the man-hater; the racist; the narcissist; the incompetent; the ostracizer; the blamer…need I go on? You’re probably reading this because […]
A Tiger in the Forest – Taming Your Team-Busting Employee
Thomas Friedman in Friedman’s Fables tells the tale of “The Friendly Forest” , a place where all of the animals live happily together until a new neighbor, a ferocious tiger, moves in. The very presence of the tiger disrupts the calm, peaceful atmosphere, especially for the lamb that seems to be the object of the Tiger’s […]
